How to Help Someone in Early Sobriety Through the Holidaysby baladmin | November 25, 2014
Early sobriety and the Holidays
Early sobriety for your loved one is a time when new identities are being formed, sobriety tools are being utilized and honed, and the challenge of living life on life’s terms is continually tested. As family members, we only want to help our loved one, but what are some things we should do, and shouldn’t do?
Holidays are generally stressful – a family experiencing their first holiday with a newly sober family member may find these tips helpful for the time they are together.
How to help Loved Ones IN Early Sobriety through the Holidays
- Let go of control and the need to dictate their recovery.
- Understand their need to be in control of their recovery.
- Support and encourage their recovery. (Going to meetings, calling sponsor, contacting case manager, ect.)
- Ask about having alcohol present, and understand their concerns around it (if they have any.)
- Have healthy communication and boundaries.
- Adjust “unhealthy” holiday family rituals.
- Let them be just another one of the family members; try not to make them the center of attention.
- Don’t shame them for what happened in the past.
- Don’t encourage too much future thinking. They are learning to live one day at a time.
- Encourage them to relax, and keep a stress-free environment. Overthinking things can be a large “trigger.”
Holidays aren’t just hard for thOse In Early Sobriety – It Can BE TOugh For Everyone
Understanding that the holidays can be very stressful for the whole family, not just the recovering individual, means learning techniques and coping skills for the upcoming holidays, which is essential for you and your loved ones to have an easy, stress-free experience. This in turn will make the holidays a smooth time for all involved. This is why Balboa Horizons’ family program focuses on helping everyone in understand the disease of addiction. The whole family can start the healing process and mend together.