Holiday Visits to Family: 10 Tools to Stay Soberby baladmin | December 23, 2015
For some of you this may be your first holiday sober from drugs and alcohol. Though the habits of addiction may be absent seeing old places and faces can be triggering. In addition, there is a learning curve for your family getting acquainted with the new person you are; someone with different values and interests. All of these changes can create stress and tension, both of which jeopardize sobriety. We suggest anyone in sobriety use these tools when visiting family over the holidays:
- Phone– If things become stressful, annoying or hurtful, step out and make a phone call to your sponsor. Check-in and share your experience.
- Meditation – Find a quiet room where you won’t be disturbed and meditate for 5 minutes.
- Meeting – Before you head home look up the local A.A. meetings in the area. Here is a list of some of ours in Orange County.
- Walk – Get some fresh air by going for a walk by the beach or simply around the block.
- Yoga – Find a local yoga studio and take a breather. Exercising your body will also get your serotonin up and running-double win.
- Service – Ask how you can help with dinner, around the house or run an errand. Asking how you can serve your family rather than questioning their behavior can do wonders.
- Call your Peeps – Reach out to a friend in recovery and ask them how they are doing over the holiday.
- Read – Bring a book with you. Reading can give you the feeling that your present without having to engage.
- Pray – Take a deep breath and ask your higher power for guidance in each situation.
- Leave – If things get overwhelming remember that you have the power to choose to leave whenever you want to. Taking care of yourself is your #1 priority in recovery.