Help For Parents: How to Draw The Line, How to Be Effectively Involved, How to Let Goby baladmin | May 10, 2013
Being a good parent can mean knowing when to step in, even if your child will not react well. The effects of drugs and alcohol on kids and young adults are way too detrimental to sit back and watch.
If you notice that your son or daughter seems to be abusing drugs and alcohol, or is obviously addicted to one or more substances, you need help learning where to draw the line, how to be effectively involved, and how to let go.
The appropriate amount of intervention in the life of your child is not easy to determine, but you can do it!
Drawing the line:
Every addict much reach a bottom to see the need to get clean and sober. As the parent of a young substance abuser, you can raise the inevitable bottom so that your child does not have to face jail time, social consequences, major problems at school, health complications, or death. When you decide what you are willing to do to save your child’s life, your strength to draw the line, and hold true to your bottom line, can be what opens your son or daughter’s eyes to the need for professional help in the form of addition rehab.
Your line, creating your child’s “rock bottom” can be that he or she is no longer welcome to live in your home, or you will no longer pay for his or her rent. Whatever you feel will cause your child to choose treatment is what you should use when drawing the line. You are no longer willing to watch your son or daughter live this way!
How to be effectively involved:
Your child is making a choice to use drugs and alcohol to a point of abuse or addiction. Although you love your son or daughter, enabling him or her by giving money, or by letting things go that should be your child’s responsibity is not helping the situation.
Your part in helping your child choose a life without drugs and alcohol may involve the facilitation of an intervention. With other family members, and friends, of your child, you can express your love and concern for his or her current lifestyle. This is where you can officially draw the line that you are committed to sticking to enforcing.
Seeking professional help for yourself can help determine how actively involved you are in your loved one’s life, and how you can start to heal to best help your child find help too.
How to let go:
After various forms of intervention and an expression of your love and concern, and willingness to help, your son or daughter may still choose a life of substance abuse. In this case, you may need to learn how to let go.
Support groups for parents of addicts are available all over the United States, including Al-Anon, the 12-Step based program for family members of addicts. You will need formal treatment to let go because you cannot go through this process alone.