When someone you love has been abusing drugs and alcohol, and you are ready to step in, a family intervention, coming from a place of love and concern, is an effective way to guide him or her toward rehab.
1. Create a Cohesive Group
When you think about all the people that care for the person who needs the intervention, you will most likely find that there are almost as many different opinions as there are people. How can you all come together, essentially putting your own judgments and beliefs aside, to best help the subject of the intervention
Forming a cohesive group is important. You all need to be coming from the same place in order to offer any chance of help. The drug abusing person feels isolated, shameful, and lost, among other things, already and an intervention can heighten those emotions tenfold. If the group of people who are trying to help are not united in their mission, the addict will pick up on it, and will respond accordingly: with chaos.
2. Channel the Love and Concern
One way to bond the group is to talk about how great the person was before substances took over his or her life. Why do you love Joe or Jane? Why are you so concerned for his or her health, wellbeing, and future?
When all of you can come together, you stand a great chance at collectively showing the person you care so much for, just why he or she should choose rehab.
3. Write Letters to Express Feelings
Individually, each person involved in the intervention should write a letter expressing the love and concern identified above. Try putting yourself in the other person’s shoes; what would you want to hear from your family members and friends when you have reached a low life point? What would inspire you to choose treatment instead of continuing to harm yourself with drugs, alcohol, and associated behaviors?
4. Speak with a Substance Abuse Professional or Interventionist
Interventions are difficult for everyone involved. Someone who has performed one before, in any capacity, is better equipped to guide the process, to handle adverse reactions, and to keep things on track. The show Intervention on A&E shows various examples of successful and less than successful family interventions. If you can watch a few episodes, you can see where things went right, or wrong, and you will certainly see just how much the professional interventionist helped the family.
Find out more, and set up a time to meet with a professional before carrying out the intervention. The reward will be getting your loved one into treatment.
5. Practice and Stay Focused on the Goal
Get the group together the day before the scheduled intervention and do a dress rehearsal, of sorts. Make sure you are all on the same page, have the professional interventionist or counselor present, and run through what you will do and say on the day of the event.
As you rehearse, and act as if it is the real intervention, stay completely focused on the goal. You cannot control how your loved one will react, but you can control what you say and how you say it. Again, everything needs to be communicated with love and concern. Be sure each person remembers that, and has the end goal in mind: getting the drug-abusing person to choose rehab on his or her own.
With this preparation, you are ready for the intervention. Take a few deep breaths, center yourself, and walk in with a loving heart. You are doing all the right things to help save this person’s life. Believe that it will be successful, and carry out the plan.